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Tuesday, October 11, 2011

In Response

After getting several comments about my first post, although knowing where they are coming from and expecting such comments, I definitely feel the need to respond. I stand by every single thing I said. Not only is what I said what I truly believe, but it is BIBLICAL. Telling a mother that she does not have to feel overwhelmed is not "judgemental". Telling a mother that she needs a dose of reality at times is not "Holier than thou". Defensiveness is our natural response based on our own pride. Maybe you need to search out what it is about my words that were offensive to you and why? If you don't particularly enjoy being a mother, yes, you will become defensive against a mother who says that she thinks it's the best job in the world.

Christ said that as believers we are to be judged by our fruit. If you are not a Christian I do not expect you to agree with my posts. If you are a Christian who does not agree with my posts then I am inclined to ask you why? What is it that you do not agree with about living in the Spirit? What do you not agree with about acting out of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, and self control. Do you really believe that as a Christian we are called to live our lives as mothers overwhelmed, emotionally empty, angry, and wishing we were doing something else? Do you not agree that if we are living out of the Spirit then we cannot be acting out of our fleshly emotions? The scriptures say that a good tree cannot bear bad fruit. If your role as a mother is bearing bad fruit, then you need to take a serious look at why you are not instead bearing good fruit.

3 comments:

  1. I thought the other post was FABULOUS!!! I couldn't agree more! Such an encouraging, strong message! I 2nd this one as well! You go girl! PREACH IT!:-)

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  2. Your original post had SOME GOOD POINTS but the message itself was lost. Instead the picture that I got was some woman who was given a microphone at church and asked to talk about joys and hardships of motherhood. Instead they got a woman standing on a soapbox ranting.

    As a Latter Day Saint(Mormon if that helps),the Church sees MOTHERHOOD as one of the highest honors from Heavenly Father. There are a lot of talks that are given to mothers, to help encourage them. In all the talks that I have read or listened to I have never once heard them say, "feeling this way is wrong". In fact they state that it is perfectly normal.

    Here are some quotes given by Elder M. Russell Ballard in his talk called Daughters of God
    (http://lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng&query=Motherhood)

    "There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family. "

    "We need to remember that the full commitment of motherhood and of putting children first can be difficult. "

    "There are moments of great joy and incredible fulfillment, but there are also moments of a sense of inadequacy, monotony, and frustration. Mothers may feel they receive little or no appreciation for the choice they have made. Sometimes even husbands seem to have no idea of the demands upon their wives."

    "The first question: What can you do, as a young mother, to reduce the pressure and enjoy your family more?

    First, recognize that the joy of motherhood comes in moments. There will be hard times and frustrating times. But amid the challenges, there are shining moments of joy and satisfaction."

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  3. Ok hold on. So because sometimes I think motherhood isn't all it's cracked up to be and wish I was back in my old pre baby days means I don't like being a mom? I love being a mom. I just think that if you are sugar coating everything about it then you are a liar. There are some days I really do want to rip my hair out. Last Sunday my son was up ALL NIGHT LONG. No joking. From Sunday night into Monday morning he did nothing but play. I on the other hand was exhausted. I did not enjoy that. It is stuff like this that puts me on the defensive.

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